He just won't go away...

I have been divorced now for a
little over 6 years.

I have not seen my ex in almost 6
years.

He has not seen his boys in almost 6
years.

He has not spoken to his boys in
over 5 years.

His parental rights were terminated
about 4 years ago.

6 months ago he called me, wanted to
know about the boys & to tell me he had another son.

           
I told him to go to hell.

I know to a lot of people this might
sound terrible but, the bottom line is he walked out on his children, of his
own volition, and because of that he does not get to know about them anymore.

           
He made his bed…

In the years since the divorce, the
abandonment, the termination, and the hurt, my boys have finally begun to heal.
I have finally begun to let go of some of my anger and resentment at this man
who helped create these amazing people and then walked away from them. We have
moved on and are in a “good” place in all of our lives now.

2 weeks ago the mother of his new
son sent me a message through Facebook.

Now my wounds are opened up again.
We have had brief message correspondence through Facebook and I have learned
things I don’t want to know.

• He drove
  halfway across the country, with a stolen gun, to come shoot me after the
  termination was finalized.


• He lied to many me during our marriage.


• He has
  committed and been convicted of domestic violence crimes.

She wants my help to keep him away
from their son. She wants to know if he was abusive to me or the children. She
wants to know of other marriages and children.

I have info that I can share with
her. It may help her out. But I don’t know if I want to be involved. I don’t
know if I should be involved.

It might be better to close the door
and lock it really tight.

But then I think of her little boy.
I don’t know him, but I know mine. I remember that I would have done whatever
it took to make sure that he could hurt them.

I would hate to know that he was
able to hurt another innocent child.